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Saturday, 31 August 2013
Happy New Month To All NDB Readers
first day of another year, the beginning of any day is fine. I believe that during our darkest moments, if we focus right, we can see the light. I believe in staying strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that your present circumstance don't determine how far you can go in life. I believe that if you believe you can, then you're halfway there. I believe your dreams can come true if you fight hard enough for it. I believe it's never too late to be what you want to be. But most of all I believe in miracles. May this month be the beginning of the best years of your life. Have a miracle-filled month. God bless you and yours. L
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Justin bieber attacked at a night club
Justin Bieber was attacked by a crazed young man early this morning,3am to be precise, at a Toronto nightclub. Beiber who was at VIP section, left to party with regular folks when a young man in 20's charged at him and tried to bring him down.
The unknown guy held beiber's shirt and tried to take him down before a security detail intervened and subdued the attacker.
No arrests were made.
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How To Last Longer During Sex Without Any Difficulty
Are you having a hard time holding on while having sex? Here are 20 everyday tips, sex tips and foreplay tips to hold that orgasm back for longer.
For a girl, multiple orgasms are a fun thing to experience.
But when you're a guy, ejaculating too soon can spell doom to your sex life.
As a guy, premature ejaculation can leave you feeling frustrated, dejected, and arm-twist you into losing all your confidence when it comes to matters of the bedroom.
It's unfortunate that you have to deal with this, but fret not, because there are really fun ways to learn to last longer in bed.
All it takes is a bit of effort and a bit of time.
How to last longer during sex
If you want to last longer during sex and you're not really suffering from a medical condition, then these tips will definitely help you last a lot longer. After all, you need to remember that the experience of sex is more in the head than in between your legs.
If you feel confident about your sexual capabilities, you'd definitely be able to perform better with your woman.
Don't let premature ejaculation get in the way of a great sex life. Instead, learn to get better at controlling your ejaculation and everything will feel just fine.
And here's a start up tip for you, if you ever end up ejaculating within a few minutes, don't hate yourself for it. Lie back and rest for a half an hour or so. You'll be ready by then and raring to go, and you'll definitely last a lot longer and satisfy her better too!
Everyday tips to have sex for longer
Here are a few everyday tips that can help you enjoy better and longer sex over time. Just like a long term diet and workout plan, these everyday tips won't help you tonight, but they'll definitely make you a sex god potential over time.
#1 Masturbate regularly.If you haven't ejaculated for a long time, it'll be harder to hold on while having sex. Spend some alone time with yourself at least a few times a week so you never let the horniness get out of hand!
#2 Controlled ejaculation.Now every guy masturbates now and then. But how often do you do it? If you have some time by yourself, get busy with the little guy, but don't rush it. Spend at least an hour watching porn or thinking naughty while masturbating.
But each time you're on the verge of ejaculating, hold yourself back and think about something else. The more you practice holding back during masturbation, the better you'd get at controlling your ejaculation.
#3 Speak to your doctor If you're having a really difficult time making sex last, perhaps you need to speak with your doctor for an immediate temporary cure. Your doctor can prescribe a few pills for you, which can help you last longer while you work on the other techniques at the same time.
#4 Workout and kegels.Workout everyday and you'll feel a lot better in no time. Working out improves your blood flow and makes you feel fitter. And even if you lose an erection because you shot the gun too soon, you'll be ready again in no time.
Another alternative are kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are a set of exercises that focus on the pelvic muscles. When you contract and relax your muscles around your pelvis, the pubococcygeus muscle of your pelvis get stronger over time. And that helps you get rock hard erections, and gives you better control of your ejaculations.
#5 Communication Don't let your early explosions frustrate you. After all, you're not intentionally trying to finish yourself off early. Speak to your lover and help each other understand what's going on in both of your minds.
Sexual tips to last longer during sex
You've read about how to hold on your hard on for longer using the everyday tips. But now we go straight into the act. So what can you do while having sex to avoid an early ejaculation? Find out here.
#1 Overexcitement. Avoid aggressive or wild angry sex. When you lose control of your erection, that's when you'd lose the erection completely. Try to indulge in calm, slow and romantic sex. By avoiding fast and aggressive sex, you'd be able to last longer because you won't experience a sudden burst of sexual energy in an instant.
#2 Take control of sex.When two people have sex, the one on top is usually in control of the movements. So try to spend more time on top. When you're on top, you can slow down or stop moving completely when you feel like you're on the verge of ejaculating. By holding back when you feel like ejaculating, you can last a lot longer because you're in control of the sex.
#3 Shift your weight. When you're on top of your girl and feel like you're going to blow out,place your forearms on either side of her and shift your body weight onto your arms. Stop moving in and out and just wait for your little guy to feel relaxed again. You'll be able to push ahead within a few seconds.
#4 Be in sync with your partner. This is where your lover can help you. If she ever feels you throbbing when you're inside of her, tell her toavoid moving too aggressively *or even stop moving completely* so you can regain your control. At times, as hard as you try, you do need some help from your woman to make sexlast longer.
#5 Control the surrounding. Have sex in a comfortable place where you won't feel overexcited. Completely avoid anything that's too exciting like public sex or anything else that turns you on a lot. If you feel most relaxedin your bed, stick to the bedroom until you getbetter control of your orgasms.
#6 Don't change your pace too often.Changing the pace of the to and fro motion when you're inside her feels good for both of you. But when you do that, you'd also end up ejaculating faster because the change in pace makes you more horny.
#7 In and out. Some couples love taking the little guy out of the lady garage often and putting him back in while having sex. They do this in porn movies all the time too.
For many guys, taking the tool out often and reinserting it while having sex helps them stayhard for a lot longer. But at the same time, it'll make some guys orgasm a lot faster. Find out what works for you and use it to your benefit.
#8 Shallow moves. Once you've penetrated your girl, don't go ramming her like you're a porn star on heat. Go shallow and easy. Move just a few inches in and out of her unless you're feeling very confident, because longer and deeper moves of the shaft will excite your little guy a lot faster.
#9 Wear a condom. It numbs most guys down there. Don't opt for the ultrathin condoms. Instead, opt for ones that'll help prevent you from ejaculating faster by numbing you down there.
#10 Don't obsess about your orgasm.One of the biggest reasons why so many guys suffer from this on a regular basis is because they spend so much time obsessing over this little problem of theirs.
These things happen to everyone all the time. And you'll definitely get over it sometime soon. So until then, ignore the thought of premature ejaculation before or during sex by keeping your mind occupied elsewhere.
#11 Control your breathing.Breathing plays a big part in controlling your ejaculation. If you're on the verge of ejaculation and want to hold it back, focus on your breathing and try to release your breath slowly through your mouth in a controlled manner when you're inside her.
This is hard to explain in a sentence without going into details, but trust me, just breathe out through your mouth slowly and you'll see how it works.
Ways to prepare yourself for longer sex before penetration
Here are four things you can do to prepare yourself for longer sex, when you're in the act but haven't penetrated her yet.
#1 Be vocal.Your woman may assume you won't be able to last long and may try to finishup really fast. But if you feel like having sex for longer, let your partner know about it. Bothof you should take it slow and easy, and communicate at the same time about when to stop moving or when to slow down further. By doing this, it'll help you last longer and bring both of you closer.
#2 Longer foreplay.Always spend more time on foreplay. By getting straight into the act immediately, the excitement and sexual tension may build up too fast which could end up overexciting you and leading to faster ejaculations.
#3 Try new sex positions.Some sex positions will stimulate you faster and make you orgasmreally fast, while some positions can help you last a lot longer. The missionary position is a safe one, but a few unconventional positions may just help you better. But you'll never know what works until you try.
#4 Masturbate before sex.Have a very quick quickie with yourself an hour or so before sex. Be so quick about it that you hardly even notice a significant ejaculation. Sex isn't a planned activity, so ejaculating an hour earliermay not be an easy thing to do all the time. [Read: How to get any girl horny just by sitting next to her]
But if you and your girl have decided to make love later that night, slip into the bathroom in the morning or afternoon and finish yourself off. You'll be sensitive and ready after a few hours, and you'll be able to hold on a lot better too.
Yes, it's true that premature ejaculation is frustrating and demeaning. But use these 20 tips on how to last longer during sex and you may just be able to turn your life around and have a great sex life with just a little effort!
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How to Know If You Are in Love
But the bigger question is how to know if you are in love? Well, find out here.
Falling in love is an experience worth living for. And the first time you fall in love, that's a memory of a lifetime. But how to know if you are in love in the first place?
All of us have our own experiences in love, and every moment is as unique as the person who is falling in love.
Many believe in love at first sight while many others think the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually.
Now however you may fall in love, the feelings are all the same. And when you're in love, you'll just know!
When you fall in love with someone, you start to experience feelings and urges that are quite unexplained and confusing.
How to know if you are in love
Falling is love may be a single emotion, but that single emotion can cause so many hormones, chemical and emotional changes, it's almost unbelievable.
You're definitely in love if you're experiencing these emotions.
Butterflies in your stomach
For anyone who experiences falling in love it first sight, you can't really help but experience butterflies in your stomach.
It's a vague sensation of wanting to throw up and trying to get to the loo at the same time.
Your stomach starts to perform intricate back flips and the insides of your stomach feel like they're fluttering!
So why does this happen? Surprisingly, no one really knows why this even happens! But it just does.
Some scientists believe this is due to the release of adrenalin by your body because of the nervousness you experience when you fall in love at first sight.
Unexplained happiness
Do you find yourself kissing pillows, jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason and giving your lover funny little pet names? You may just be in love.
According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist from Rutgers University, when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due tote increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.
The dopamine released in the brain make you feel sleepless, restless, full of happiness and make you think about your lover, a lot. Ever taken cocaine? That's just like an intense burst of dopamine!
You can't think of anyone else
When you're in love, you can't really think of anything else but your lover. They'd be tirelessly running around in your mind and you can't work, remember things or focus on other interests. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.
You get sexually attracted… a lot!
In a study conducted on several young couples madly in love, it was seen that the levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter found mostly in the intestinal tract, dropped dangerously low, something that's experienced by people suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder.
But on the other hand, it was noticed that low serotonin levels in young couples increased the desire to have sex. Talk about evolution's way of forcing the ritual of baby making while we're completely attracted to each other!
You get depressed easily
Do you get upset easily if the person you like upsets you in any manner? Well, you may be in love. While the drop in the serotonin level makes you more horny, it also makes you depressed and anxious!
Even the smallest of things can upset you or your lover, and both of you may end up spending a lot of time trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression.
How to know if you are in love
Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love.
Falling in love is like a drug, and unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn't really last forever. While the levels of chemicals like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it's up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive.
Every time you have a crush on someone, the whole game of chemistry in love starts firing the Bunsen burners and we're back to square one all over again.
But evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love.
So how to know if you are in love? You're going to be experiencing every single emotion that's been explained here. But is your love going to last forever? Well, that's a whole different story!
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Dear NDB Readers: 5 Texting Mistakes Men Make
Nearly everyone has a cell phone these days and many relationships begin to evolve through the use of text messages. Sadly, the average guy out there doesn't know how to woo a woman over text messaging and ends up making
several key errors that kills attraction.
Here are 5 mistakes to avoid when you're texting a girl.
1. Sending dirty texts too early
Getting too sexual over text too early will scare her off and hurt your chances when it comes to setting up a date because you run the risk of her thinking that you are only after one thing: sex.
2. Sending too many texts before getting a reply
Sending multiple texts one after the other without giving the girl a chance to reply to at least one of them only invites trouble. This habit shows that you are too eager and don't have much going on in your life. Give the girl some breathing space.
3. Sending texts that have no value
This is probably the biggest mistake guys make when they text women. Texts like "How's it going" or "What's up" do not make you stand out from all the other guys that are trying to text the same girl you are talking to. They do nothing more than put her on the spot to keep the interaction going and annoy her.
4. Texting first date plans
Never EVER setup a first date via text. Anytime you ask a girl to go out, you want to do it on the phone or in person. A girl deserves to hear your voice when you ask her out and she wants a guy who is willing to risk calling her, not a guy who hides behind a text message.
5. Texting long conversations
Text conversations are NOT the same as the actual conversations. When you insist on pointless chit chat just to keep the texts going, you can actually kill attraction and find yourself placed in the text version of the FRIEND ZONE. Instead, say more with less. Whenever you're planning to text a girl, keep everything plain and simple. Start with the good stuff and keep it short and sweet.
I don’t fall inlove….BBA is my last reality show-Melvin Oduah
You were attracted to Selly and later to Dillish. Who were you really attracted to? I don’t fall in love and I didn’t see myself falling in love in the house.
Love just doesn’t happen. For me, love is a gradual process. That was why I didn’t ‘toast’ anybody. First it was Gulder Ultimate Search and later Mr. Nigeria and now Big Brother. Do we see you go into any competition again? Ah! I have tried o. I am not the only one in Nigeria.
I don’t intend to go into any other competition. I would just use this platform I have now to move my career. I have been finishing as a runner up in all this shows. But I am not jinxed. It is not easy to be in this competition. It has a little bit of psychological effect on you but it is all good. That you didn’t finish first doesn’t mean that you are not good enough.
I look at the positive side. I will not sulk but I will keep doing what I have to do. What do you intend to do after now? I am going to take my acting career to greater heights. I was an actor before I got into the house. I think that my acting career will go up.
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Jennifer Lopez Lands $17.5m Deal To Return To American Idol
'There was a lot of back and forth negotiating on her salary,
but now it's finally been settled that Jennifer will earn $17.5m to go back to Idol next season,' a source told MailOnline exclusively.
'It's a major coup for her to land a huge payday like that and I believe she is thrilled with that number. It's a lot more than the $15m Britney Spears was paid to do The X Factor.'
In mid-August there were rumours that Jennifer, the mother of five-year-old twins Max and Emme, was getting a $15m salary for her third season of Idol, but the figure is actually higher.
The $17.5m salary is a big leap from the $12m paycheck J-Lo was handed for her first season of Idol in 2011. For her second season she was given a $3m raise to $15m.
It was reported last year that when Jennifer asked for another $2m raise to come back for her third season the Idol producers refused and she walked.
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Friday, 30 August 2013
''I’m sorry for embarrassing Nigeria, I didn't do it intentionally''- Beverly Osu
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stay in BBA house, because the poor girl is truly sorry. Read an excerpt from the interview below:
On Having sex with South Africa’s Angelo!
I did not have sex in the House. I had a relationship with Angelo Collins but we did not have sex. I loved him and I still love him. I am a blunt person and very real. People that knew me before BBA know that I don’t pretend to be who I am. If it happens, you fall in love, you can’t fake it. I did not have sex with Angelo.
I was under the bathtube, but we never had sex. Maybe, the camera made it look so. Everybody gets naked to have their bath, so I don’t think it is wrong for me to be naked when I have my bath too. There was no way. I couldn’t be different because I went for a reality show. So, I should not be judged by what people saw during the show since I didn’t intentionally bring out my video for all to see.
My mum’s reaction
My mum has tutored me very well. Even if the whole world rejects me today, my mum can’t reject me. I love my mum so much. I’m her only daughter and the last child in the family. I have always been there for her, just as she has always been there for me. I will not disappoint my mum intentionally by saying she this or she’s that…
On Embarrassing Nigerians
I don’t feel happy about it because this is the first time, I represented the country in any continental competition. But the fact remains that if you didn’t go for it, you wouldn’t know how it’s in the House. I wasn’t there with my cell phone to be able to communicate with the outside world. I was just there alone. I’m sorry for embarrassing my country. I didn’t do it intentionally. My participation in the show was not to embarrass my country. I am a proud Nigerian.
On featuring in a porn production by Afrocandy
I heard about it. Thanks for the offer but no.
She said they didn't have sex the bath tub, then I can bath with any girl in a bath tub and it's not sex
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September 1st Declared ‘No Music Day’ In Nigeria
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To celebrate the day, all broadcast stations and major users of music across the country are requested to
show solidarity with the nation’s creative industry by not broadcasting music between 8 and 10 a.m.
Efe Omorogbe, a member of the coalition which focuses on the infringement of the rights of composers, song writers, performers, music publishers and other stakeholders in the Nigerian music industry, said
‘The theme of this year’s celebration is ‘Keep the Music Alive’ and this is a call to the government of our great nation, Nigeria and to all lovers of good music to join the Nigerian music industry in solidarity to put an end to the blatant abuse of our rights which in itself is a threat to creativity.’
‘No Music Day’ was first held on September 1, 2009 as Nigerian artistes condemned the abuse of their intellectual rights and properties.
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Ghanaian Music Star, Reggie Rockstone Launches Condom Line
Beverly Osu Is The Worst Dressed Celebrity- Video Vixen Speaks
Well she wasn’t really a celebrity until recently, do not know if I should call her name but Beverly Osu that just got evicted from Big Brother House is my worst dressed celebrity.
I know Beverly cant dress well but how sure you are better
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9ice faces protest In Dublin
The guy probably thinks he is in Nigeria where they behave like tin gods. Europe is a leveller, you come down to the level of permissible behaviour and decorum. I won't say you folks should boycott his show because the promoter must have invested a fortune, just grin and buy it. Continue reading:
I Must Confess,i'm Really Astonished at what i Witnessed Tonight......I'm a Man of the People,i believe People are Very Important,Regardless of their Status in Life.....I'm a Keen Believer in Morality,Courtesy and Decency.......There Is a Popular Musician from Nigeria.....called 9ice,Someone,Whose Music i have Enjoyed over the Years, someone, who i regard as being Talented and Gifted.......but the way, He behaved Tonight, Made me to ponder if fame and Fortune really get to people as they say....
He came over to Heritage food in Lucan ,but what amazed me is that he walked Straight past his Fans who were just Hanging out,Chillaxing....without even saying Hi or hello....Furthermore, he went into Heritage Restaurant without even saying Hi to the People inside the Room.....A woman actually baked a cake to welcome him to Dublin,He didn't even Acknowledge her or Give her the Chance to Present the cake to him.....it's such a shame!
Then this so called Celebrity Expect their fans..who work really hard doing Menial and Crazy jobs,Working odd hours under crazy Condition(s) to Buy the Ticket for their Show(s) and support them????Which made me to Ponder!!!!It seems they are Only Here for the MONEY and not their Fans!!!!....It's such a shame...
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Alison-Madueke's Secret Romance With Lagos Big Boy
she also has the ears of President Goodluck Jonathan.
The beautiful woman, we also learnt, had an 'underground' relationship with a Lagos-based Oil and Gas big boy, Dapo Abiodun.
According to those who know about their affair, Diezani and Dapo dated fora while and while it lasted, both enjoyed it to the fullest both in Nigeria and abroad.
The source said Dapo was the Apple of Alison's eye during the late president Umar Musa Yar'Adua's tenure when she was the Minister of Transportation and later Solid Mineral Resources.
We learnt that affair between Alison and Dapo was closely guided and only a few people in the corridors of power knew of it.
Dapo, who owns Heyden Oil, one of the major players in the oil and gas sector, was alleged by insiders to have gotten more patronage through Alison's influence.
Unfortunately for the love birds, somewhere along the line, we learnt Dapo fumbled and Alison had a bitter fight with him.
“When Alison Madueke became Minister of Petroleum, she made sure Dapo's Heyden Oil got little or no allocation for the importation of petroleum products, which accounted for serious drop in his fortune.
“The fight is still on, but I know Dapo is trying to find a way back into the woman's heart,” our source disclosed.
However, the source added that Alison, who is married to a former Chief of Naval Staff, Rtd. Admiral Madueke, has stepped up and has no time for Dapo again.
"You know Dapo is a lady’s man, but the minister has told some ofher confidants that he belongs toher past now,” our source said.
Why They Broke Up!
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Lagos Ranked World’s 4th Worst City On Earth
said. And its top worst cities, are scattered around Africa and Asia. Lagos, the fourth on the list, shares its 137 position with Port Moresby, in Papua New Guinea on 38.9 per cent.The report made available yesterday described it as the second-fastest growing city in Africa and the fourth worst city on earth.
“Rapid growth is not always a good thing because Lagos is now a magnet for two perpetual threats to peace: pirates and Islamist warriors. Boko Haram have a problem with cities like Lagos and also lots of weaponry. Pirates threaten trade and use kidnapping as a method of funding. Islamist terrorist groups such as Boko Haram (“Education is forbidden”) want to create their own version of heaven on earth by destroying cities such as Lagos and imposing strict sharia law. Lagos has enormous potential but as yet little to show for it – hence its poor ranking,” the report said. EIU in its 2013 annual survey of the world’s 140 major metropolises, said Lagos has a long way to go politically, socially and economically before it joins the emerging market club.
Do you agree?
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Apparently Peter Okoye's Pic Of Him Spraying Dollars In A Strip Club Was Fake After All
Okoye. But did Peter actually tweet the picture like some of them are claiming? lol
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(Photos) 17 yrs old Female Bodybuilding Champion Gets Bullied Online For Being Too In Shape
With her bulging muscles and intense fitness regime, Georgina has won a gold
medal in the UK Bodybuilding and Fitness Federation North East Championships.
Mcconnell is being bullied for being a “freak.”, but she is answering the bullying only with self-confidence.
Her recent Facebook post proclaims, "I’m happy with who I am, I know what I’m doing and I’m doing it for me."
Check out more of her pictures after the cut
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ABORTION.....What Is Your Honest Opinion?
I weep when i see how some kids are born into this world to suffer....i saw a child born without legs and arms and the mother had an option to get rid of it but she opted to keep it and now the child is almost a teenager and cries everyday seeing her normal friends do stuff and gist her about disco and all that........this beautiful child is more beatuiful than ten beauty queens put together mind you.
A lady only drank alcohol when she was pregnant and birthed a child that had 80percent alcohol in its blood,that child according to doctors,will never be normal and will be dependent on machines to breathe,eat,and even sleep...shouldnt that child have been aborted?
Would it be better if a spade is called a spade and certain actions be taken or would it be stepping seriously on Gods toes when one considers an abortion as a way out?
I hope we can argue and discuss maturely...with facts and try not to cuss each other out.
Eeveryone is entitled to an opinion,albeit that it is an opinion formed out of ingorance.
Why bring a child into the world to suffer?would you term it a sin if a lady aborts a child she knows will only be sick throughout its life?
Remember that whatever you argue will make an impression on some people since we are discussing locally..try not to cuss out biko!
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HOTTIE Of The Week
His Name is Tunde, currently an Agricultural Science student of Bowen University, He loves creative thinking, chatting, making good friends, watching soccer.
He is realil nice, what do u think
follow @fresh_olatunde
Ladies will u hit him
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Beauty of The Week
She really have some good class,I think she is lovely
Guys hot or Not, for me I think Hot!!! Follow her on twitter @Pink_ladela
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Thursday, 29 August 2013
Niyi Daram Blog now an app on Black Berry
Yay! It went live some days back. So if you're a BB user, download and enjoy! Muah!
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25 Ways A Man Shows He Is Still In Love With You
loves you, stop letting words play the important part.
Instead, watch his behaviour and use these 25 signs
he loves you to read his mind.
It'll help you understand your man better and even
make you see just how much he really loves you! So
does your guy really love you, even if he doesn't
express his love through words? Find out here.
#1 He remembers what you say. A guy who's in love
with a girl always listens to her and remembers what
she says, even if it's something trivial because he
takes her seriously.
#2 He's chivalrous and treats you like a lady. A guy is
chivalrous to a girl when he cares about what she
thinks of his behaviour. If your guy doesn't care about
you, he wouldn't care what you think of his behaviour.
#3 He takes care of your needs. If your man truly
loves you, he'd always look for little ways to make
your life better, be it about covering you with a
blanket when you're cold, charging your cell phone
even when you don't ask him, or serving you the
better piece of chicken when you're not looking.
#4 You're always a part of his big plan in life. He
speaks about his life and his dreams with you, and
you always have a prominent place in all his future
plans.
#5 He holds your hand instinctively when you're in a
crowd, or places his hand on your back while crossing
the street. This is a reflex action that neither of you
may realize. If a guy loves you, he'd definitely want
to protect you and reassure you.
#6 He values your opinions a lot and doesn't take
any important decisions about his own life without
hearing your opinions and having a discussion with
you.
#7 He wraps his hands around you or stands closer
to you when you're talking to some other guys and
having a good laugh. It's his way of letting the world
know that you're the one he loves and every other
guy should back away.
#8 He uses the word "we" instead of saying "I" or
"Me" while talking and doesn't even realize it.
#9 He's very protective of you. If you're taking a trip
by yourself or even if you're just driving out with
friends, does he like receiving your call after you get
to your destination? If your man can relax only after
knowing that you're safe, no matter where you are,
he definitely has a special spot for you in his heart.
#10 He's very interested in your life. If your man
loves you, he'd always be eager to know everything
about your day, including the little details.
#11 The helping hand. He's always ready to offer a
helping hand every time you ask him *even if he's
busy and he does it while whining and grumbling at
the same time*.
#12 After the fight. He makes up after a fight just as
much as you make up with him. And at times, he
even swallows his pride and apologises first even if
it's not his fault in any manner.
#13 He keeps you updated. He keeps you informed
about his life and what he's up to even though he
knows he has no obligation to do so.
#14 He respects you and treats you with a lot of
respect. He doesn't stare at other girls when you're
around, neither does he cut you in the middle of a
conversation.
#15 You're the last person he speaks to or texts at
night. If he loves you, you'd be the first and last thing
on his mind every time he wakes up or goes to sleep.
#16 He sacrifices his happiness to see you happy. It
could be something as small as choosing a
restaurant for dinner or giving you the fluffier pillow
or something way bigger that can impact his life.
#17 He makes a lot of effort to be liked by your
friends and family. He cares about what your friends
and family think of him and he also understands that
their impression of him will affect your relationship
with your friends and family.
#18 He can't stay mad at you for any reason for more
than a couple of hours. People in love can't stay mad
at each other for long, it hurts both lovers too much.
So if he takes the effort to apologise or accept your
apology, he really does care about you and your
feelings.
#19 He talks a lot. If a guy loves you, you'd find that
he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about
everything, be it his life, his plans, his work or even
about how annoying his friends really are.
#20 He loves spending time with you. He goes out of
his way to be with you. And if he has to cancel a date
for any genuine reason, he'd do everything it takes to
make it up to you on the next date.
#21 He stands up for you, no matter what you've
done and no matter where he is. A man who truly
loves his woman will stand by her side even if she's
on the wrong. He may criticise you in private, but
never ever in public.
#22 Making a choice. If he has to choose between
you and anything else in the world, he'd choose you
in a flash without even thinking, because he doesn't
need to weigh any options there.
#23 He never forgets your special days, be it your
birthday or anniversaries or a big day at work. And he
goes out of his way to help you prepare for any big
days or events in your life.
#24 He doesn't get annoyed with you even if he's
busy and you tease him or fool around with him.
#25 At a social gathering, he never gives any girl
more attention than he gives you, even if he meets a
celebrity.
Don't jump to conclusions about your man's love for
you. After all, most men aren't the biggest romantics.
But they do have really big hearts that's full of love
for you and you alone.
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Ladies: 10 Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Boyfriend, Under ANY Circumstance
1) "My ex did the exact same thing!"
Whether it's a desirable resemblance (they both always hold the door open)
or a less desirable one (neither one showers often enough), your boyfriend never wants to hear that he's anything like your ex. Ever.
You don't want him to feel like you're always comparing the two of them, do you? Think about it: Do you really want him to imagine that he does other things just like your ex? Doubtful. Plus, he might think you're still hung up on your former flame.
Either way, a comment like this won't do much for his self-esteem. So the next time you experience boyfriend deja-vu, keep it to yourself.
2) "helen's pregnant ... shhhh"
Remember on Séx and the City when Carrie tells Aidan that Miranda's pregnant but that he can't tell Steve? Remember how upset Aidan was to hear the incriminating news? Your boyfriend doesn't want to hear information that could get him into trouble. And even if he does want to hear it, he really shouldn't.
Don't burden him with someone else's secret. And besides, if he does spill the beans, your friend is going to be mad at you, not him.
Along the same lines, he doesn't want to hear about your friend's yeast infections, her irregular periods or her IBS. It's bad enough heh as to hear about yours.
3) "when we're married/have kids..."
It's natural to fantasize about wedded bliss and the three kids you and your beau will one day spawn - you're only human. And sometimes you might even entertain this fantasy very early on in a relationship. But unless you want to scare him away permanently, keep thoughts like these in your head where they belong.
Even if he himself has thought about your happily-ever-after future, he probably doesn't want to hear it described out loud just yet. Wait until you're on the same page,regarding marriage, kids, and the future of your relationship before you start prophesizing. A gut feeling probably isn't good enough.
4) "do you think she's pretty?"
When you ask a question like this, your boyfriend knows he can't win.
If he says "yes," you'll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with "Is she prettier than me?" Talk about a loaded question!
Of course, if he says "no" (and she clearly is pretty), you'll accuse him of being a liar. You'll wonder what else he's lying about, even as you assure him you don't mind if he says "yes." Pfff…as if you're that insecure!
Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn't find her attractive at all? You'll wonder what his bad taste says about you.
See?
5) "I'm fine" or "Never mind"
Your face says it all. So does the fact that you haven't said a word in the past hour. And the way you snapped over the misplaced remote control isn't hiding anything either. But when he asks if you're okay, you say you're fine. At this point, your boyfriend wants to tear his hair out.
Passive-aggressive behaviour doesn't help anyone. First, you miss an opportunity to actually address what's bothering you. You also bottle up your frustrations and create new problems. By the time you actually try to tackle what's really bothering you, you're both too upset about too many things to have a constructive discussion.
6) "I just let one go"In a man's mind, women only use the bathroom to re-apply their lipstick(or, at the very worst, pee). They know they're kidding themselves, but they really don't want any physical, verbal, or olfactory indication of the contrary.
Announcing your bodily function means he can no longer blame the dog. Suddenly, you're one of the guys, and not in a sexy, "I watch football and drink beer but I'm still a girlie-girl"kind of way.
Sure, he'll get over it. He may even laugh about it from time to time. But he'd still prefer that it never happened. So depending on how squeamish your guy is, you might want to wait till you're married to be disgusting.
7) "I'll try anything once!"
Because unless you really, really,really mean it, don't get his hopes up.
8) "Are you sure you're okay?"
(Repeatedly. Even after he's told you he really is okay.)
Sometimes we're thrown off guard when our guy is uncharacteristically quiet. We'll prod and probe, hoping to get to the bottom of their issue (and too often, we're absolutely sure it's something we've done). When in reality, there may not be a concrete reason at all.
Men have bad days too - they can be moody, tired, or just generally not feel like talking. They're only human! As hard as it can be, don't read into it too much. Give him his space and keep yourself busy until he snaps out of it.
Ask him what's bothering him over and over again and the only honest answer will be "You."
9) "I hate my thighs"If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.
Putting yourself down in front of him makes you look insecure, and just in case you didn't know, men really hate that (see #6). Just like women, they're usually attracted to self-confidence and put off by its opposite.
Think about it. Would you want to be with a man who constantly talked about how much he hated his calves or how he felt like a failure in his career? Uh, no way.
In addition, you'll draw attention to flaws that he probably never even noticed before. No one else looks as closely at your body as you do. In all likelihood, you are your own worst critic. Don't recruit him.
10) "I hate your mom"
Likewise for his friends, his siblings, his dad … even his dog.
If he really loves someone or something, don't hate on 'em. You may not get along perfectly with everyone in his life, but try your hardest to be diplomatic in your relationships with people he really cares about. Be open-minded about what he sees in them (things that may not be immediately obvious to you).
Maybe Dead beat Dave is his oldest friend - the person he survived middle school with; the only person who stood by him when he lost his job a couple years back. Maybe despite his lack of attention to hygiene, he's got a heart of gold.
If you love your man, you'll trust his judgment.
And whatever you do, don't ever make him pick a side. If it's between you and his mom, you'll lose every time.
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What Should You Do After a Break Up To Feel Awesome? Here it is
So you've decided that it's time to leave that no-good lover of yours on the curb.
Good for you!
But now what?
What do you do after a break up?
Sometimes, ending a relationship is the easy part.
The loneliness and weird confusion you feel after the break up is the tricky part.
It's a lot like binge drinking.
It's all nice and dandy until you feel the need to spend your night hugging the toilet seat.
What to do after a break up
There are no right things or wrong things to do after a break up.
But there are a few smart things and dumb things to do that'll definitely make a difference to your life.
If you've broken up recently, or have been dumped by your dream squeeze, lift your chin up.
It's not the end of the world.
In fact, it's a whole new exciting start if you choose to see the bright side. You're single, and you're in control of your own life all over again. Doesn't that feel nice?
10 things to do after a break up
Here are ten things you really should do after breaking up with a lover. It's a healing process, it's fun and it'll keep you occupied enough to say 'do I know you…?' the next time you walk past your ex flame.
#1 Don't go crazy.
Yes, you're going to have a lot of free time on your hands. But look at the bright side, you have so much time to do the things you love. Don't cut your hair off, don't go having sex with anything that walks, and don't drunk dial your ex all night long.
Lonely moments are inevitable when you experience a break up, even if you're the one that ended the relationship. Your mind will convince you to go crazy, but try to avoid the urge by reasoning with yourself. You're better off being single. No, no, really, you're better off being single. Come on, you know you're better off being single! See, it's working already…
#2 Don't feel sad.
This is dumb, but completely inevitable too. When you break up with your sweetheart, you'd start to love sad, heart wrenching songs, and beautiful views of empty walls and half empty glasses. Stare at walls for a while, and then walk backwards slowly until the hypnotic effect of the blank walls wear away. Read books instead, or play silly games on your tablet.
#3 Remember the no contact rule.
We love breaking rules, especially the no contact rule after we break up. When you were in the relationship, you were happier avoiding your lover. But now that you're mentally restricted from contacting an ex, there's a chance that you'd feel extremely affectionate towards your ex. Heck, you may even miss your ex. But the no contact rule exists for a reason. Follow it.
#4 Keep yourself occupied doing things you love.
It'll reduce any chances of getting caught in a haze of confusion, love and lust. Every time you miss your ex, slap yourself across the face. If that doesn't work or your cheek turns patchy red, get out and shop, or watch movies or play engrossing games that can force time to fly past you in a hurry.
#5 Take some time off from love.
But flirt a lot. Avoid falling in love. Remember, love's a trap that eventually leads to unbearable pain. Believe in that idea for the moment. What do you like about a relationship? The flirting and the groping. So go out there and do both of that. Just don't fall in love just yet.
#6 Do the things you've always wanted to do.
Yes, you were so happy when you were in a relationship. But really, how many things did you sacrifice? You gave up those late night wet texts to your cute friend, gave up grinding with other sexy people, and gave up a lot of things you loved doing. Now that you're free, stick your ass or front up against someone sexy on the dance floor, indulge in the things you love and get your own life back out of the closet.
#7 Avoid places and activities that make you miss being a couple.
You want to get away on a vacation? Don't go to Bora Bora or Hawaii. Instead, head to Ibiza. If you can't fly at your whims, go around town carefully avoiding all things that look like couples and red hearts. Just so you know, red hearts have buckets of blood in them. Eww!
#8 Pick up on old conversations.
I mean, the naughty ones. Who was that hottie who almost made you orgasm while texting late at night? And where's that crush of yours who is dating an ugly hag? Get in touch with all the right people who make you feel all sexy and fuzzy inside and continue the conversation where you left off.
#9 Party.
Nothing beats the wild, sexy rush of sweaty parties. There's groping, grinding, liquor flowing and sexy people dry humping. Can life get any better than that, especially fora single person on the flirty prowl? Down a few shooters and dance like there's no tomorrow. And party like you're still eighteen. Just a word of caution, avoid getting so drunk that you wake up with something you're not going to be proud of.
#10 Have a fling or a rebound.
Nature's best remedy for a broken heart. If you're wondering what to do after a break up, go on out there and put yourself out in the market for a fling thing. Having a fling can bring back all the fuzzy buzz of infatuation and flirty love, and that'll definitely make you forget your old love. A fling or a rebound relationship is the hair of the dog of the dating world.
Still wondering what to do after a break up? Just walk out right now. There's a whole world waiting for you. And guess what, it's a freaking' happy place out there!
We're trying hard to create better relationships in the world.
But we can't do it without YOU!
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Happy Birthday To A Priceless Jewel
An SS3 Student Build A Prototype Of Bulldozer And A Dump Truck.
Echezona built a locally made electric engine bulldozer and dump truck. he told me that he is exhibiting his crafts to attract donos that will help him take these to the next level.
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The Lie "We" Preached From The Pulpit
Someone once told me that " when a man takes the TEXT out of CONTEXT, he becomes a CON - An instance of deceiving or tricking someone".
And in my experience in church and "Christianese" that is what God's word has become to many of us, a means to an end.
We want money we quote "..Give and it shall be given to you..", meanwhile that scripture has nothing to do with money.
When we want to teach people greed that we call Prosperity, we quote "..money answereth all things...", but on the contrary, that scripture points out clearly those things that money have answers to, if only we would read in context and not read our GREED into HIS CREED!
One of those scriptures we've misused and quote out of context is Ps. 105.15. An individual in the place of leadership, within the body of Christ has misused his/her authority or abused his/her office, instead of taking up the cloak of humility, we respond with either by citing the story of Moses and his siblings in Numbers 12:4-10, then back it up with Ps. 105.15 or 'we' place people under a curse { I wonder if we understand scriptures at all ... we place God's people under a curse, after that Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the Law, being made a curse for us} HABA!!! O ga ooo. I hope to look into that another time, if God wills.
The truth about Psalms 105:15.
This psalm was written by David, it was first delivered up into the hands of Asaph (a Levite, Chief of those appointed by David, to minister before the Ark of God) and his brethren in the day they brought the Ark of God into the midst of tent that David pitched (that is what the bible would latter call the tabernacle of David).
This Psalm was PROBABLY rewritten (or formatted, in today's language) as additional verses were latter seen to be added, which were not originally there. Compare [1 Chronicles 16:8-36 <=WITH=> Ps. 105:1-15(THEN check verses 16-45 of Ps. 105)]
Who is [are] the anointed [ones] and the prophets?
1. This Psalm was a psalm of thanksgiving from the position of what God has done in the history past of Israel as a nation or a people. So David was not talking about himself or someone or some people in the future.
2. Read this scripture from any translation, you will discover that it is talking about a COMMUNITY of people not AN INDIVIDUAL!!!
Read Ps. 105. from verses 12-15
When they were few in number, Indeed very few, and strangers in it.
When they went from one nation to another, From one kingdom to another people,
He permitted no one to do them wrong; Yes, He rebuked kings for their sakes,
Saying, 'Do not touch My anointed ones, And do My prophets no harm.'
These verses summarize the past of this community of people, and how God kept them.
There are three major events in scriptures that spells out what these verses are talking about:
a.) Dinah, Jacob's daughter got raped: Gen 34:1-35:1-5.
When Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite raped Dinah and afterwards will want to marry her, Simeon and Levi her brothers through deception killed all the males in that city because of what Shechem had done to their sister.
Hear what Jacob said from where the statement "When they were few in number" came in Gen. 34:30
Then Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, You have troubled me by making me obnoxious among the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites; and since I AM FEW IN NUMBER [ did you see that? ], they will gather themselves together against me and kill me. I shall be destroyed, my household and I.
See how verses Ps. 105:15 then occur in this case: Gen. 35:5
..And they journeyed, and the terror of God was upon the cities that were all around them, and they did not pursue the sons of Jacob...
So, the anointed [ones] and the prophets here is the whole community not just an individual. [For the record, Simeon and Levi were punished for that action later by their father.]
b.) Twice, Abraham traded his wife for his safety: Gen.12:10-20,20:1-18.
If you read these verses,
When they went from one nation to another, From one kingdom to another people,
He permitted no one to do them wrong;Yes, He rebuked kings for their sakes,..
You wonder how? This correlate with the life and times of Abraham. He had married his own sister i.e Sarah (from the same father but NOT the same mother). She was very pretty so much that at an old age of Sixty plus, kings were still "running" after her. Abraham knew that his wife was beautiful so he had a pact with her saying " always tell them you are my sister!" for his own safety.
Twice, this happened, and twice God rebuked kings!! In fact, in one case, God told the king in a dream you are a dead man. Why? "....because of the woman whom you have taken, for she is a man's wife.?" and called Abraham a prophet, who will pray healing for him and his household "Now therefore, restore the man?s wife; for he is a prophet, and he will pray for you and you shall live. But if you do not restore her, know that you shall surely die, you and all who are yours.?"
God was not only protecting Abraham here, he was also protecting Sarah and all of their household that later became a nation.
These were the primary events that form the backdrop on which these verses 12-15 of Psalm 105 was written.
Who then are the anointed [ones] now?
Please let me quickly say that these gifts of Christ as stated in Ephesians 4:11-16, has nothing to do with TITLES or POSITIONS. I wonder why we have Pastor so and so, Apostle so and so, etc but we don't have Teacher so and so. These gifts of Christ were given (not attained or achieved) for FUNCTIONS!
So, who are those that are anointed, If we are to "apply" the scripture Psalms 105.15 today?
a.) Scripturally, Psalms 105:15, is for our exhortation not "shut-ING-up" words. To see what God has done in the past, and so believing in him that he would keep his words in the NOW.
b.) You will also notice that the scripture is not for a certain individual within the community against another group of persons within THAT family or THAT community of anointed ones and prophets! In fact, God used the plural PROPHETS!!! NOT PROPHET!! Read any translation!
c.) We are all ANOINTED !!!
That is God's word!
..But you have an anointing [unction] from the Holy One, and you all know..... But the anointing which ye have received of him abideth in you, and ye need not that any man teach you: but as the same anointing teacheth you of all things, and is truth, and is no lie, and even as it hath taught you, ye shall abide in him [ the anointing is not OIL, it is a person ]. 1 John 2:20,27.
Of course you have to read from the verse 1 to see these in context.
In conclusion: There is of course, a place of honor for those who labor and who are put in charge as leaders or Shepherd by God [ We are all the same before God, it's our functions that defers, just like body parts ].
However, we are charged by scripture "..Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith...", it is when we do this that we realize that Jesus is the same Yesterday, Today and Forever. Why? Because what God is working in their lives following the Lord, will be the same if we follow him so!
We are to CONSIDER the OUTCOME of their way of LIFE and FOLLOW their FAITH!!! God doesn't have grandchildren!!!
Clearly it obvious that Psalms 105:15 is not the exclusive reserve of the elitists within the church!
I can only Pray that the Lord grant you understanding in all these things!!
Timothy Adigun
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